Raising a Teenager Is Tough Business

I am feeling quite distraught at this late hour.  My son turns 15 on Monday and I am having so many issues with him and with our relationship.  He always only wants to spend time with his friends.  He does not hold down his responsibilities here at home which are basically just picking up after himself and doing things like trash and such at times.  If I ask him to do something with me or family it is like asking him to let me tar and feather him.  I totally get that he wants to spend the majority of his time with friends but to me it is a bit excess.

As far as his responsibilities, he took four days to pick up the cups and trash out of his room which should have been done without my even having to ask him in the first place.  When I tell him he cannot do something he states how he picked it all up.  Picking it up after several days of my telling him does not count as doing it to me.  I try to pick my battles with him but it is so frustrating.  I cannot figure out where that sweet boy went most of the time.  He feels like I am always griping at him when in reality if he would do what he is told or should already know to do I would not have to gripe at him at all.  I do not want him feeling so frustrated and like that is all I do but he is at the age where he must learn some responsibility and stick to it.